Being picky for a friend

What both innocent victims to be the cover of picky friend topic! haha 

Being young and aggressive (haha apa kau tetiba agresif), at the phase I'm walking into a challenging adulthood, it would be good to have as many friends as I can and expand my networking as wide as it can help my betterment. Yes I do, but for some reasons I've become very mean and disclose my circle small to only very few people. 

I ditched some old friends, even in the past I was their shoulder to cry on, knew each other inside out and at some point we were as thick as thieves. For the sake of both parties, I detached myself from some of the friends and silently pray for their happiness. I tell Allah to make them live in content and safe.

I could only dump food pictures because I'm currently enjoying food more than anything else and still not giving up on the idea of losing some weight ! haha.

I'm looking forward to welcome new people every day. But this time I mingle up with a lot of curiosity and judgement. I get connected with more people from diverse backgrounds, ermmm kind of more weird one I think. Back to muslim basic behaviour I try to give more trust, try harder to speak the same language and at most time Alhamdulillah many things are going swimmingly.

I did feel very bad about myself to choose to be very picky to trust someone, to put hope on people or even believe the smaller my circle is, the happier me.

I feel very bad until I read this today and I know it's not that selfish decision hehe.

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5 Scientific Reasons You Should Choose Your Friends Carefully

A psychotherapist wrote this and initially this writing from Forbes.

Let eat some brownies before we go for reading hehe

1. Strong-willed friends can help increase your self-control. 

If you struggle to resist temptation, surrounding yourself with people who possess a high degree of self-discipline can help. A 2013 study published in Psychological Science reports that when people are running low on self-control, they often seek out self-disciplined people to boost their willpower.

Since self-control is vital to reaching long-term goals, befriending people with willpower could be the secret to success. Whether you’re tempted to skip that workout at the gym, or you’re considering blowing this month’s budget, a friend with high self-control can motivate you to maintain healthy habits. 

2. Having fewer friends increases the likelihood that you’ll take financial risks.

When people lack adequate social interaction, they’re more likely to take bigger risks with money, according to a study published in the June 2013 issue of Journal of Consumer Research. Researchers discovered this was especially true for people who were feeling lonely or rejected.

Whether you’re dealing with a recent break-up, a fallout with family, or a failed business venture, be aware of how your emotions may affect your spending habits. Uncomfortable emotions can certainly increase the chances that you’ll behave more recklessly than usual, which may not be wise for your financial future.

Here goes my boring gallery with 100+++ food photo 

3. Too many connections on social media may increase your stress level.

When it comes to social media, “the more the merrier” may not be a good approach. A report from the University of Edinburgh Business School discovered that more Facebook friends means more stress. Researchers found that having an abundance of social media connections leads people to worry about offending others.

Stress arises as people try to present a version of themselves online that will be acceptable to all their social media contacts. While your college buddies may enjoy publicly discussing that “weekend in Vegas," your parents and your co-workers may be less than impressed by those stories. So before you begin adding everyone you can to your social circle, remember that research shows having too many “friends” on Facebook can be anxiety-provoking

Eat some more and gain weight like me

4. Close friends could be the secret to longevity.

When older adults have close confidants, they’re likely to live longer, according to a study conducted by Australia’s Flinder’s University. After following 1,500 people for 10 years, researchers discovered that people with a large network of friends outlived their counterparts by 22%.

Other studies touting the health benefits of friendship have shown people with cancer live longer when they attend support groups. Close friendships can help ward off depression and boost immunity as well. So while it may be tempting to think that friends are sometimes more trouble than they’re worth, clearly, having close friends can be one of the best things you can do for your health.

5. Friends can greatly influence your choices.

A 2014 study published in the Journal of Consumer Research found that friends often bond by providing one another with moral support to resist a temptation. However, friends also commonly conspire together to enjoy indulgences. Researchers discovered that when it came to resisting temptations – like eating chocolate – sometimes friends were more likely to become partners in crime as they decided to indulge together.

Friends can help bring out the best in you without expecting perfection. They can remind you not to take life too seriously, as well as give you that much needed boost when you’re feeling discouraged.

Did I sit on a comfy sofa? I'm actually sitting on my fat legs! 

Hehe everything is nice (lighting, color, the tree and etc) except the angle.